19 Ridiculously Simple Lessons in Persuasion

Lesson - Subtle Compliment🔝

A subtle compliment is one of the most powerful ways to improve likeability. L,42054>

  • You never get the answer wrong
  • If I could have a dollar for every time you were wrong I'd be broke
  • I've learned more from you in one minute than I learned in my college career
  • I could never do that. (referring to someone's cooking, speech, performance...)
  • How long did it take you to learn that?
  • Can you show me how to do that?
  • That's a great question - This implies that the questioner is smart
  • Wow! That's amazing
  • That's a really good point

    The following are from Adam Grant1
  • I don't want to embarrass you but...
  • I know you don't want me to say this, but...
  • Compliment the recipient to their friends as the complement will get back to them
  • Argue a little before conforming to the subject's viewpoint
  • Disguising flattery as advice-seeking - How were you able to do x so successfully?
  • Speak glowingly about people behind their back
  • Conform to someone's opinion when getting it from somewhere else

    A few rules:
  • Find something someone does well
  • Make sure that they believe this about themselves
  • Find links to the complement
  • Use you don't ...; you're not...; you never...; you can't... (where the ... is opposite of compliment)
  • Use double negatives
  • Exaggerate


    1. Pick a situation to give one (home, work, public transit,Twitter)
    2. Follow the rules above
    3. Give the Subtle Compliment
    4. Track and measure the results in you PN (Persuasion Notebook)

    Learn more on Subtle Compliments


  • Table of Contents | Send us your feedback | Random | © 2019 All Rights Reserved