19 Ridiculously Simple Lessons in Persuasion
Lesson - Subtle Compliment🔝
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You never get the answer wrong
If I could have a dollar for every time you were wrong I'd be broke
I've learned more from you in one minute than I learned in my college career
I could never do that. (referring to someone's cooking, speech, performance...)
How long did it take you to learn that?
Can you show me how to do that?
That's a great question - This implies that the questioner is smart
Wow! That's amazing
That's a really good point
The following are from Adam Grant1
I don't want to embarrass you but...
I know you don't want me to say this, but...
Compliment the recipient to their friends as the complement will get back to them
Argue a little before conforming to the subject's viewpoint
Disguising flattery as advice-seeking - How were you able to do x so successfully?
Speak glowingly about people behind their back
Conform to someone's opinion when getting it from somewhere else
A few rules:
Find something someone does well
Make sure that they believe this about themselves
Find links to the complement
Use you don't ...; you're not...; you never...; you can't... (where the ... is opposite of compliment)
Use double negatives
- Pick a situation to give one (home, work, public transit,Twitter)
- Follow the rules above
- Give the Subtle Compliment
- Track and measure the results in you PN (Persuasion Notebook)
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